Friday, May 27, 2011

"...then you will know the truth

and the truth will set you free."   John  8:32.  "The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable."  ~Attributed to James A. Garfield
I remember having discussions, debates and arguments about "The Truth" while I was a student at Bowling Green State University.  Now, I'm ready to move on. 

I do believe the truth will set us free, however, I think there may be times in our lives when the truth may rock our worlds.  When we seek truth in our daily lives I think we look for the following:
  1. Accurate perceptions regarding our behavior and the behavior of those around us.
  2. Clarity regarding exactly why we do what we do.
  3. Confidence in where we place our faith.
  4. Wisdom to allow us to speak accurately to help others.
Finding the truth in a situation requires:
  1. Understanding the context and environment involved.
  2. Patience to gather all the facts.
  3. Bravery to look in the right places and follow through with tact.
  4. Discipline to manage the information wisely and constructively.
  5. An ability to look through a lense that allows us to see our world the way it really is.
Our next "Transformation" gathering is going to be on "whatever is true."

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Parental Temper Tantrums

The idea behind counting 1-2-3...take 5 is that numbers only are counted.  Words are not used to explain reasons for bad behavior.  According to 1-2-3 Magic for Christian Parents, adding explanations and comments to this discipline approach can distract the child from the consequence of poor behavior.  It can take a child's focus off the possibility of good behavior and put it on the prospect of an enjoyable and energetic argument. 

"Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tounge of the wise brings healing." Proverbs 12:18

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Finding the right person

at the right time can sometimes be a challenge.   But, it can make a world of a difference.  This impacts whether or not the job is done properly.  Reaching out to others, building relationships and being willing to take emotional risks enhances our ability to connect with the right people at the right time.

Friday, May 20, 2011

Be the right person

at the right time...all the time.  Our experience yesterday (Elbow dislocation then relocation at ACH) has really inspired me to continue striving to be the best person I can to help others.   Being a Physical Therapist who works with people battling dizziness, I am regularly reminded of the power of people being connected with people who truly know what they are doing. 

Yesterday, I experienced the value of working with excellent people personally.  It makes me want to keep getting better, keep growing, keep creating, keep designing, keep thinking outside of the box and to love others.

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Specialists

Today, I was reminded of the value of seeing the right people at the right time for problems we may have.  My son dislocated his elbow this afternoon.  We took him to Akron Children's Hospital where he was immediately taken into a room in the ED.  He then saw a great Pediatrician who relocated his elbow with minimal discomfort within seconds.   There were no unnecessary tests (such as x-rays) performed.  It was outstanding.   We were in and then out of the ED at ACH within about 30 minutes.

Thanks to Dr. T for being so good at what you do.  The popsicle and stickers you used to assure Isaac could move his right arm were the perfect finishing touch to a job well done.

Sunday, May 15, 2011

Walking to school every day

I had a client in his 80s come and see me the other day.  He was frustrated that he was late because  a school bus had stopped several times to pick up children who would be attending their school that was within walking distance.  He stated, "When I was a kid, we walked to school every day no matter what the conditions were like outside."  He said, "Of course, that was in the 1930s."

Hearing him say this made me pause and think, "Who will tell the 'I had to walk to school' stories once this generation passes?"  I believe our "Greatest Generation" has a strong understanding of how good we have it these days.  They know what it was like to live in times of very little and through several wars.   There is something more meaningful about hearing this message straight from a person who lived in the moment than reading about it in a book.  We have got to learn as much from our elders as possible before it is too late.   .

Saturday, April 30, 2011

Explosions, a Pig and 100 Intentional Years. Happy Birthday Art!

"HOOYAH!  HOOYAH!  HOOYAH!  HOOYAH!"  Art exclaimed while moving through a very large gathering of his family and friends signaling the beginning of a powerful and inspirational night of celebration.  In response, a standing ovation offered in honor, appreciation and encouragement with countering shouts of "HOOYAH! HOOYAH! HOOYAH!  HOOYAH!" rang through the air.  I can't imagine a more fitting way to begin this celebration for Art, a WWII Frogman.

I attended the 100th birthday party of an amazing friend last night.  It's hard to imagine living that long.  Even more, it's difficult to imagine living as long as Art has successfully.  Fortunately, Art's 100 years have been filled with intentional and meaningful living.  Art has not just occupied each year he has been given, he has packed each year full with bravery and vigor as he has worked hard in building relationships, helping others, connecting others with one another, learning new concepts and processes and thinking and working outside of the box. 

A few of the outside of the box things Art has done that were shared last night were: using explosives to remove tree roots, making a coat rack out of rebar, using rebar to guide the growth of tomato plants, raising a pet pig with his brothers and sisters, flying his friends and family in his own airplane from Stark County to Pennyslvania for an evening supper date ("not anything fancy"), using a FAX machine when they first became available, using computers when they first became available, talking on SKYPE to others at a beach at the age of 99, allowing his grand kids to shoot machine guns, and working in non-traditional ways.

I had the opportunity to speak with one of Art's engineering friends for a while at his party.  His name was Jack.  Jack told many stories of how Art used to get in at ground zero and help out on each project as if he were a laborer.  As the president of his firm, he could have delegated the responsibility of supervision.  Instead, he got right in and helped out on the job site.  He told a story about how one of the products on the job site was not working properly and how Art had a new product provided on site within hours of discovering the problem. This was all arranged after discovering the problem late at night.  He was very impressed with Art's long life of hard work, commitment to progress and getting things done right.

Yes, Art enjoys talking, but he also enjoys getting things done.  If he sees something that needs taken care of, he takes care of it.  He doesn't waste a whole lot of time contemplating whether or not he should get involved. He figures out a way to make a difference and he takes care of problems.  A good example of this is how he immediately purchased a state of the art scale for his son's wrestling team when he found out they were using a bathroom scale for weigh-ins. 

Many may look at growing to be 100 as a life that must have had many problems...especially in the later years.  However, Art doesn't seem to have the ability to get down or depressed by the problems that come his way.  Of all the time I have spent with Art over the last 10 years, he has never told me not to get old!  As a Physical Therapist, I hear "Whatever you do..., don't grow old..." at least four or five times a week.  Art has never said that.

There is much to say about a man who wrestled for Ohio State, was the Commanding Officer of the of the Under Water Demolition Team 17 in WWII., was the president of an engineering firm and the father and grandfather of many wonderful, bright, ingenuitive and proactive children and grandchildren.  I hope to reminisce off and on about the things Art has taught me.  But, after leaving the party tonight, I was just reminded of the importance of living a life on mission.

What mattered most to all the people at Art's party tonight was the way Art befriended them and helped out in one way or another.  It seems Art has made a difference in people's lives by giving them books to read, buying them helpful gadgets and devices to use to make their jobs run more smoothly or more efficiently, connecting people to others who have experience, sharing some of the secrets he has learned along the way and by leading the way by not falling into the traditional patterns and ruts that come along over the process of living in our daily routines.

What a great celebration of life!    HOOYAH!